Breakups happen frequently in almost all relationships and the question most people ask is Why?
Most people want to know what went wrong, what they did or didn't do etc.
I would like to state here that not all relationships are meant to be hence the need for a compulsory breakup.
Most people want to know what went wrong, what they did or didn't do etc.
I would like to state here that not all relationships are meant to be hence the need for a compulsory breakup.
No matter the reason there is always hurt on at least one party.
So I will be giving you 7 tangible reasons why breakups happen.
1. Misplaced Love: This happens when you offer your heart to the wrong person. You are probably aware that you always have to fight for this person to love you, you are the only one who calls, send texts, visits, apologizes, the list is endless. The other party is just receiving and not giving, always giving excuses not to be with you or to express their love. You can't pray with the person, no future talk together, your opinions about life is totally opposite, you are not happy. But probably because you are afraid of starting over or being lonely you stick like glue. Please someone one out there is waiting for you to receive and cherish your love if you don't break up you may never have that chance.
1. Misplaced Love: This happens when you offer your heart to the wrong person. You are probably aware that you always have to fight for this person to love you, you are the only one who calls, send texts, visits, apologizes, the list is endless. The other party is just receiving and not giving, always giving excuses not to be with you or to express their love. You can't pray with the person, no future talk together, your opinions about life is totally opposite, you are not happy. But probably because you are afraid of starting over or being lonely you stick like glue. Please someone one out there is waiting for you to receive and cherish your love if you don't break up you may never have that chance.
2. Bad Inner Character : Most people are very good at hiding who they truly are, they look so polished on the outside but what comes out is foul. You can't last in such relationship and if you eventually get married the probability of divorce is high. If you have friends and family correcting you on a similar issue please check it. Bad character is worse than a disability. You may be complete on the outside but totally disabled on the inside. It pays to change, someone who may have tolerated you for a while may get tired and leave you if there is no improvement.
3.Foolishness: The labour of the foolish man wearieth him because he does not know how to get to the city. Most times we just exhibit foolishness even though we have been taught and warned severally. It pays to be wise, your heart is very important to God, you can't afford to just dump it anywhere you like. When you don't adhere to advise and instructions you may end up heart broken. stop making yourself a love slave to another person, you get exploited emotionally, being foolish is when you are being used and abused and you still stick to that unfruitful relation ship. That's where you hear people say I told you so. Be wise.
4.Lack of Understanding : I have noticed that in today's type of relationships and courtships individuals lack understanding. Why because they pay more attention to sex than what actually matters. Trust me trivial things like sex
Cannot hold a solid relationship together. When there is no understanding between the couple, misunderstandings are bound to occur. Thus will in turn lead to hurt and eventually breakup.
5. Wickedness : The heart of man is desperately wicked who can know it. Please do not find yourself in the arms of a wicked person, your love may not be strong enough to change that person. It's better you pray from afar. Wickedness may be coated with something sweet so open your eyes and pray always. When the serpent gave eve the apple to eat it looked good for food, it didn't look like something that could kill but we all know that the devil had ulterior motives. Someone may just date you to be a part of his conquest, someone may be on the rampage of sharing diseases or just out to break hearts. Please be wise don't be in a hurry to just release your hard earned love.
6. Confusion: When you find yourself in a relationship with a confused soul, you find yourself fighting hard to keep it.
3.Foolishness: The labour of the foolish man wearieth him because he does not know how to get to the city. Most times we just exhibit foolishness even though we have been taught and warned severally. It pays to be wise, your heart is very important to God, you can't afford to just dump it anywhere you like. When you don't adhere to advise and instructions you may end up heart broken. stop making yourself a love slave to another person, you get exploited emotionally, being foolish is when you are being used and abused and you still stick to that unfruitful relation ship. That's where you hear people say I told you so. Be wise.
4.Lack of Understanding : I have noticed that in today's type of relationships and courtships individuals lack understanding. Why because they pay more attention to sex than what actually matters. Trust me trivial things like sex
Cannot hold a solid relationship together. When there is no understanding between the couple, misunderstandings are bound to occur. Thus will in turn lead to hurt and eventually breakup.
5. Wickedness : The heart of man is desperately wicked who can know it. Please do not find yourself in the arms of a wicked person, your love may not be strong enough to change that person. It's better you pray from afar. Wickedness may be coated with something sweet so open your eyes and pray always. When the serpent gave eve the apple to eat it looked good for food, it didn't look like something that could kill but we all know that the devil had ulterior motives. Someone may just date you to be a part of his conquest, someone may be on the rampage of sharing diseases or just out to break hearts. Please be wise don't be in a hurry to just release your hard earned love.
6. Confusion: When you find yourself in a relationship with a confused soul, you find yourself fighting hard to keep it.
Confused people characteristics:
- I am in love with two people at the same time.
- Attachment to parents who make most decisions for them even as adults.
- Some one who is just fresh from a breakup and is into another one immediately.
- When you notice this signs it is evident that the person is confused.
7. Incompatibility : The reason for a relationship is mostly to check if you are compatible with each other. If this is not in the positive light then it can lead to a breakup. It's is very important that you are compatible with your spouse because marriage is a long life agreement, having married 5 times is not an achievement it only shows how unstable you are, now that you are single take your time to select, because christian marriage is for life.
On this note I will like to add, how will you feel if God was to divorce you as a Christian. If he has said he will never leave you nor forsake you then make up your heart to choose the best so you don't end up breaking your marriage.
#Remember a broken courtship is better than a broken marriage.
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it is really better if people call a quit or breakup during courtship than when married.Divorce turns to scare people and God hates it.
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